Bumble Journey Update

Here’s an update on my Bumble journey, about 2 weeks in.

I got premium so that I can filter out incompatible people straight away. You know how men always complain they only have a few likes while we have thousands? Once I set up the advanced filters, my likes went from thousands to hundreds HAHA. That’s more than a thousand of incompatible likes we have that is blocking you in our deck. We may never even get the chance to see your profile and swipe right because they are clogging up the deck.

If only everybody reads bio and swipe accordingly…

Anyway, I filtered through my beeline, and have a handful of matches. Yes, my inbox isn’t buzzing with messages HAHHA but it’s not empty and quiet either. I’m really putting in the effort this time. 🥲

But hor, I think men thinks that the fact that I’m responsive and reply with effort means I find them super attractive or something… like… no… I give the same energy to all my matches lol. Don’t be delulu, I’m not super attracted to someone I never even met before. I know men love to use photos from years ago, so I’m not really banking in on the chance they will look v similar to their pictures anyway. Like come on, most still uses uni photos HAHA.

There’s this one match that I wasn’t really feeling it but since he asked to meet, I figured why not right… Even if he turns out to be as bland as he is online, I can just take it as a practice lol. Dude unmatched me before we set a venue lmao. Kind of a good thing I guess, I saved money and time from meeting someone I wasn’t very onz about. Honestly that was the most boring ongoing match I had at that time, I really had to use my brain to think of shits chat about. I can’t accurately recall but I think he is the only person that did not ask for a pick up line in my standard opening LOL. So maybe in future anybody that is not fun and doesn’t ask for the pickup line is an instant unmatch.

There’s another guy that also asked to meet, but took him two whole days for his latest reply. And he didn’t even bother coming up with some excuse or apologize for the late reply. 🙄 I’m sorry but delayed replies are fucking annoying. I’m contemplating if I should just unmatch. To be fair, he was one of the more enthu matches and usually reply fast. That’s why this rubs me off the wrong way. It feels like “oh she’s interested in me I don’t have to put in the effort anymore lol”. Major turn off. I don’t think I ever replied him more than 24 hours later lo, so it’s not like I’m practicing double standard or something.

Then there’s this dude that asked for my tele and I gave him, thinking we can have more convos outside the app. Jokes on me because replies went from the usual once or twice a day to once every few days. I got annoyed and wiped the tele convo and unmatched him. I mean, sure he cute, but not enough for me to tolerate the blatant disrespect for my effort to reply. If he isn’t interested then why bother moving to tele sia.

You see the common denominator here? People that I gave chances to like agreeing to meet or giving my contact ended up replying later with less effort. Wtf I’m not even super duper invested in them yet and they think I will tolerate this? Cute of them to think that way.

Oh and some men really have a personality of a foolscap paper. Fml it was so boring I unmatched even before we exchanged five messages. I mean, of course I can try harder on the convo but they aren’t impressive enough for me to put in the effort leh. They’re just the meh to eh within all my matches. I rather throw it away then to waste my effort.

Complains aside, of course there are convos that are going well, and there are men I am planning to swipe right from my beeline if anymore drops off. I don’t want to be overly hopeful but I think my romance luck is coming back. I can feel it. We’ll see how it goes. Shall not talk too much about the better matches, but sincerely I appreciate them for giving me hope that they are the needle in the haystack.

Trust me, I cannot emphasize enough how I’m jealous of my girl friends that are settling down with their first and only boyfriend. I wish I have that kind of luck but yea, not possible HAHA. Actually jealous may not be the right word… I mean I’m genuinely happy for them and I don’t wish bad things on them but I also wished I was the person that gets to experience that, you know what I mean? Like experience being together with the first man you date, not like their bf HAHAHA disclaimer disclaimer!!

So yea, I guess this is my two weeks in update. Let’s see if it gets better or I rage quit in a month’s time or so.

It’s really easy to give up any guy ever since experiencing giving up the one man you really liked. I wish those guys on Bumble know this. I think I just have no fight in me anymore. I won’t chase a guy again. I rather just erase them. And the scary thing is no matter how cute the match is, I feel absolutely nothing when I click unmatch. But I cried when I deleted his number.

Oh and guess which loser caught covid again. Yes, it’s me! Maybe that’s why I thinking of him again… Our very cold exchange when I caught covid, how his concern was less sincere than most other friends. How I stupidly waited for his reply for the last time before completely giving up.

I don’t want to go through what he put me through again. Is this why I have such low tolerance for slow replies nowadays? He always kill the convo while I stupidly repeatedly check my phone hoping he’ll send a reply but it seldom comes.

I feel like I’m getting a lot of insights just by typing this out. I should really come back and blog more.